This is true for adults too. Especially, those people who are deep in addiction, or untreated trauma, or depression or grief or loss or rage. Sometimes our people express their pain in the wrong way & it’s up to us to choose how we react to that. Will we be vile back or will we take a step back and recognize the pain of another?
In 2014, I was in rehab for the fourth time. I was still in a fog of psychosis and so detached from my own story that I didn’t even know how to express pain with anything other than isolation or rage. Because of this, I was misdiagnosed by my therapist as borderline, & I was threatened, repeatedly, that I would be kicked out if I kept up my behavior. Logically, it made sense - my behavior was affecting the entire community. However, no one would see my pain.
This is true, until I met my psychiatrist, Dr. LaGrone. He didn’t look past me, he looked into me. He stayed with me, and because of this I learned how to stay with myself. That man, his compassion, his willingness to try to understand my pain & work with me & show me, a person who didn’t deserve love, some type of human kindness. It is because of him that I started to change, & grow, & show up & work on myself. It is because of him that I realized I do deserve love.
That man, and his simple act of kindness, allowed me to step into the life I have now. Sometimes, it can take one act of love to change a person’s life.