There is a difference between control and self control. Self control requires surrender of control. Spend enough time with the Spirit of God and he will give you self control. It is a FRUIT of the holy spirit. It is a beautiful gift that keeps on giving. .
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law." - Galatians 5:22-23