Let’s stop making weight loss the most amazing thing a human being can achieve in their lifetime. Let’s stop makeng “oh my goodness you lost so much weight“ the first thing we shout when we see a loved one after a long time. And let’s stop wishing that that’s the first thing people notice about us and express when they see us. Let’s stop trying to legitimize our enjoyment of food with prior suffering and the fact that we “did so well the entire week“. Enjoy your life darling.
There is more to achieve. And sometimes people lost weight because of illness, heartbreak, because of shame, because they traded life quality fo a random body standard.
Let’s comment on the glow we see in people’s eyes, how vibrant their health is, how self confident they are and how inspiring that is. Comment on people’s heart, thoughts, gestures and the way they make you feel.
Start seeing yourself through the eyes of your tribe. The people whose first thought when they hear your name is how freakin awesome you are, how much lightness, strength and warmth you bring into their lives. Start bringing that into YOUR life. Try to detach your value from how your body looks. And embody whatever you want to embody.
You are so much more. Don’t get me wrong, weight loss for the sake of my wellbeing was one of the best things ever, but I didn’t give a dime for the opinion of other people because I gave the lightness, strength and warmth to myself first, thus didn’t need outside validation.
As soon I started to care again about what they were thinking of my body...dude, it started messing with me. Again.
Meaning that this whole thing here is for me to read and to integrate into my life again.
Remember what you want to show up for in this world. And show up. Big, small, thick, thin, curvy, athletic. Be healthy, truly healthy. And that means being loyal to yourself - loyal to your body which means not engaging into negative conversation about your body. You owe yourself that and you know it.