I prefer (seriously) dating someone who is aware of themselves, that is curious to figure why they are the way they are - what makes yourself tick? Are you curious enough to find out? Would you be willing to dive into the depths of yourself w/the possibility of discovering your darkness? Can you sit w/it & "befriend" it? Can you accept it? & are you willing to challenge the traumatic cycles that have embedded themselves in you? Are you willing to transform into a better version of yourself?
I feel like all this inner work is equivalent to how much effort we are willing to put in w/our partner. If we can't endure any of the hard work in knowing our true selves before we were influenced by other people, then I don't think we would ever survive as a partnership if we were to intertwine our lives w/another soul.
Spirituality isn't all about light & love. Yes, that may be the destination we all crave but it isn't the path on how to get there. If anything, it is suffering, chaotic, messy, darker than dark, & it's a lot of confrontation of the things we are ashamed of or unwilling to admit to ourselves. It is accountability: taking ownership of our toxicity and transmuting it into something useful like a relatable anecdote to share with those who feel lonely in their journey. That's just one example.
None of us are perfect, we make mistakes, & we have moments we're not proud of, but being able to take ownership of that is what gives us our power. Because of our human experiences, we learn to be more kind & compassionate we learn to be better lovers & better human beings to others. This isn't just pertaining to relationships w/our partners but w/everyone...working on ourselves creates ripples & can spread far & wide to all others. & one day, I'd like to reach that high of a degree.
[To change the world, you must first begin with yourself.]
This really resonated w/me today so I felt like writing my #thoughts & sharing w/you. I haven't been writing as much so maybe this was a good way to start again.