“For a really long time I thought happiness lay in the achievement of some external goal. If I ace this class, I’ll be happy. If look the way I want, I’ll be happy. If I land my dream job, I’ll be happy. If I have a good relationship, I’ll be happy. And as long as I was moving toward whatever goal I had, I could label myself as ‘doing well,’ moving in a good direction.
BUT!! (You already knew there was a ‘but’ coming.) This was such a short-sighted way of viewing myself and my potential, all the possibilities of my life. I realized it in a very visceral way recently, when I FAILED to achieve a big goal, something I worked really hard on for months and cared very deeply about. I felt so bad about myself when it didn’t work out. And for a little while I let those bad feelings engulf me I felt aimless, not sure of where to go. I wasn’t going to achieve happiness by achieving this one goal, and I felt like maybe I was moving backward, going in a bad and unproductive direction AS A PERSON, because of it.
But the thing is, in life, there are so many directions you can go. Real happiness doesn’t lie at the top of the mountain, in the achievement of a goal—that’s the myth. The human journey isn’t linear. There’s always another mountain to climb. And just because you’re not moving in the direction you *think* you should be moving in doesn’t mean you’re going in the WRONG direction. There’s another mountain over there—and over there—and over there. There’s a whole system of trails, some well-worn and some you have to blaze yourself, to take you up and over and away. And who knows where you’ll end up, if you’re brave enough to give yourself permission to wander?” - via @revelatori #riskhappy