Do you love her? Men need to ask themselves often when it comes to their partners because I'm not sure they act like it. Do you love her? Not because she's smoking hot not because she gives you everything she has + is. The little things that make her who she is. Do you respect her interests no matter how foreign they may seem to you because newsflash your interests are just as silly to us still we learn about them, we get involved. You see women sit through your relationship with sports, we take it on, champion your teams, watch 7 hours of golf coverage with you. Do you find out what she'd like to spend her weekends doing other than watch you? Do you know the difference between infills + just gels? Do you know the merits/demerits of closure vs full frontal? Do you even know if she's a 4a, b or c? Do you know her favorite authors? Or are you disinterested? Sometimes you'll get lucky + her interests will be similar to yours but more often than not they just inherit it.. it means we get to understand you a little more, mainly because we love you, your individuality. But you can't be asked to do the same? Do you love her? As an entire human being with her own flaws and battles or are you expecting perfection from her at all times? While you mire yourself in mediocrity? Men don't allow women the same benefit of the doubt they allow themselves. They give women no scope for growth. It's inherent how most men want their girlfriends to automatically make their lives better but ask yourself is her quality of life better with me? MENTALLY + emotionally. Anything less than perfection from her and frustration sets in however you're quick to say "I'm still learning" in response to actions you should have learned by age 16. Oh how a woman allows you to grow out of your massive flaws + LOVES you with them! Do you love her? Not as your property, as an adult with agency? God forbid you don't get your way, you'll sulk or lash out. Do you really respect her? Do you love her enough to change + improve to the level she deserves? To make yourself uncomfortable + make her life easier? Without getting mad at her dependency on you or do you make her life harder? Men can be clowns 🤡 sha.