The biggest turn off for me is people who have two faces. Backbiting is horrible, but If I'm being completely honest, we are all guilty of it. My biggest complaint is with people I have trusted, treated nicely, done favours for, and then you find out something unpleasant they said about you behind your back. It truly breaks your heart, blind sides you and throws you off. Well, if you really think I'm a close friend, or one of your prized companions, then why not ask me or talk about anything you found weird or wanted to clarify or didnt approve of. Why do people assume and then go on to tarnish your reputation in the eyes of others or say things that are hurtful. Though thankGod just people saying crap about you doesn't make it true, the real truth always comes out, whether it takes one day or a hundred years. Lies can only be spread so much. People see through you eventually. It's tough but so worth it to be patient. I've had a personal experience where I never spoke a word of something that caused me great pain to anyone, and I still found love,appreciation and unexpected support from all. Alhamdolillah for all His favours.
I'm not talking about just anyone, but this is directed towards those whom we trust and hold in high regard and you will be surprised at how many of those talk shit when you're not around. How many people in your life,can you testify for never being guilty of this? If it's a handful or more than you're lucky. And with some people you can never tell. Those are the most toxic. I hope I can always either maintain a safe distance from such people, or if I have the courage and desire to clarify and confront them, instead of backbiting. It is like quick sand and before u know it, you have lost it all, it eats away all your good deeds. So yeah, a reminder to myself first.